(but first, how to start cooking!)

an open letter to tentative cooks and anyone who wants to eat better at home:
my cousin made this meal. my cousin who "can't cook". he got high cholesterol results back from an annual physical a few months ago, and immediately changed his diet. he went from eating mostly red meat and heavily processed and packaged foods, to eating no red meat, and almost nothing that could be considered "junk food". his cholesterol's in check--no medication! oh, and in the process he's already lost, oh i'd say 15 pounds by looking at him. his skin is now way, way better than mine. (i'm happy for him but also slightly annoyed by that...) seeing how seriously he took this attempt to be more healthy, i happily volunteered to help him start cooking for himself so that he could have even more options and control over his meals.
i was so impressed by his amazing meal, which he made with my guidance and organization, but with very little assistance from me, and more importantly by his eagerness to learn how to cook, that i thought i'd share it with you.
these were the goals that i identified for my cousin, for tasty, easy weeknight cooking.
the goals:
eat non-boring salads. salads can be really dynamic and nutritious, or not.
learn to make soups from scratch, and build them into awesome meals.
make amazing sauce that could be tweaked a hundred ways.
and most importantly: learn how to identify and buy quality, fresh produce.
because my cousin has no experience cooking, and he wants to be able to cook on his own, we felt using recipes were the way to start. i picked 3 uncomplicated recipes that were good foundations for learning some basics, so that they would hopefully be a launching pad for him to make his own variations soon. two recipes were mine, one was from a cookbook, and the first step was to read the recipes fully! he quickly saw that one soup needed to simmer for 40 minutes, but that nothing needed to be soaked overnight--a surprise you never want to come across when you're hungry and just home from work in the evenings. next, my cousin made the grocery list. instead of being intimidated by ingredients he couldn't pronounce, he asked me about them and i equated them to an herb he was really familiar with, for instance. i know what it's like to skip over a recipe for cardoons because i've never cooked them, and how amazing it is to have a little world open up for me when i finally do, because i'm willing to learn about buying and preparing them and how easy it is too cook them. hopefully the next time he's unfamiliar with an ingredient, he'll look it up and explore it instead of passing on it.
next, we went shopping. we looked over fresh mushrooms, eggs and other everyday ingredients, smelled to learn the difference between flat-leaf parsley and the similar looking but super-fragrant cilantro, squeezed celery for clues and in the end, he pointed out a terribly disgusting rotting bunch of radishes that had no business being on the shelf to the produce manager. i think he left fairy comfortable with checking out that section of the grocery store, even though there is still a lot there that's new to him. i think he gets that the only trick to buying good food is to use all of your senses.
back in the kitchen, having read the recipes in advance helped my cousin to feel confident about the process. he timed things really well, making sure that soup started early and working on the salad while it simmered. he poached the eggs last, after we talked about how little heat it took to keep eggs cooking once they started (some things you learn from experience!), and we sat down to a 3-course meal that was absolutely delicious.
but in the end, eating fabulously well is about eating what you're craving.